Recently we organized a laser tag get together for Jacob’s tenth birthday. Over the past three school years he has asked not to have any parties. So when he requested a celebration this year I was a little surprised! Originally he only wanted to invite one friend. I told him that he should be more inclusive than that. We discussed why it is important to include others. He explained his reasoning for wanting such a small gathering; like mom, he prefers quality over quantity when it comes to friendships. I understood, but still asked that he include all of the boys.
Reluctantly, he agreed to invite all seven of the boys from his class. Unfortunately only half of those boys RSVP’d; the others had family and sport’s obligations. To make matters worse, his “best friend” had to cancel at the last minute because of a family funeral. Jacob understood, but I knew he was disappointed. Like I mentioned above, he really only wanted to celebrate with his best friend.
Through his sadness, I reminded him that the other boys were still attending and that they would all have fun, despite the absence of the others. He agreed.
On the morning of the get together, I received a phone call from Jacob’s best friend’s mom. She said that her son felt so bad for letting Jacob down that he asked his parents if he could somehow attend his friend’s party. After hearing the explanation that he gave his parents, I think this child is beyond his years in maturity. He made such a substantial case to his mom and dad that they decided to each go different directions, one to the party, the other to the funeral.
When his mom told me that her son could sense my child’s sadness (apparently Jacob never told him), I was simply stunned, and amazed! I seriously know few adults who have this much empathy for another human being!
After ending the phone call, I relayed the message to Jacob. His face lit up and his spirit brightened! I am still amazed that a ten year old boy made such an mature decision, and that his parents were so supportive of their son being there for his friend!
These are the stories that we all need to hear more of. I am simply tired and disgusted over the number of negative stories that are currently dividing our country!
We all need to set better examples for our children, and in some cases, follow their lead!
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